Learn to say sorry

 Welcome to my December blog



Day 11,


Learn to say sorry.


There are many things I wished I had known earlier; one of them is the word “sorry.”

Often, when I'm at odds with someone, the least I want to do is say sorry. I always seek a way to justify my actions; I frequently get away with them. It boosts my ego and sometimes prevents me from seeing the fault in me. 


Saying sorry does not necessarily mean they're right or you’re wrong. It's sometimes the only needed tool for peace to reign. It's a better way of moving forward.


So many relationships have been destroyed because we fail to say sorry or constantly try to be correct. 


About a year ago, I had a very close friend who ignored me for days; I was baffled as to why — I thought it was right to reciprocate her gestures since I didn’t know what her reasons were, and she didn’t even care to tell me. 


One evening, I called and started the conversation: I’m sorry; I noticed you’ve been ignoring me for days; what have I done? She couldn’t help it cause I apologized for what I knew nothing about. She explained my non-challant attitude towards her. I was too occupied with projects that period, and she needed my attention.


I apologized and made her realize I had so much at hand — it was never intentional. I showed her the projects I was to deliver and how tasking it was. She was unaware of my schedule and apologized in return. 


Now, whenever she needs my attention, and I’m not there, she knows I’m busy. She understands.


A lot of time — Sorry would fix a lot of broken relationships. You don’t have to be right to say sorry. Just say it; it goes a long way. 


If we ever disagree, I'll come back to say “sorry.”




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Comments

Realwayne said…
A powerful one this night.

SORRY WILL FIX A LOT OF THINGS.
December 12, 2022 at 11:53 AM
Michaelfabro said…
I like the way ur write up is always short and concise...
December 12, 2022 at 12:03 PM
Kehinde Oloyede said…
Saying sorry fixes a whole lot of things. Thank you for reading.
December 12, 2022 at 12:18 PM
Kehinde Oloyede said…
Thank you brother.


I would really love to know who's this, if there's a way you could reach out, please do.
December 12, 2022 at 12:19 PM
Anonymous said…
Nice write up as always.
Saying sorry is an habit I’ve inculcated…
I don’t understand mama’s picture tho 😂
December 12, 2022 at 12:38 PM
Kehinde Oloyede said…
You’re welcome. Delighted to know you've learned a great habit.



Mama’s picture is just for the fun of it. 🤣
December 12, 2022 at 12:43 PM
Anonymous said…
I have been been scared to say sorry even when I'm not wrong but a lot of people took that for granted. I understand sorry fix things and I will
Do better ❤️
February 11, 2025 at 2:44 AM
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