Now I'm guilty of what I once judged.

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There’s a strange moment in life when you realise you’ve become the exact person you once criticised. It sneaks up on you quietly — and that’s what happened to me.

How’s your day going? I hope it’s been a good one so far. I got back from work not long ago, and honestly, it was a good day. I’ve had dinner already, and now I’m lying in bed, relaxing and writing to you today.

Funny how life humbles you without giving any notice.

Life really has its twists and turns. I can’t believe I’m becoming the person I once criticised. A few years ago, when I texted someone and they replied late, I would get angry. I always assumed it was pride — like they were ignoring me because I meant nothing to them. I expected every message to be answered at the speed of light. If I messaged you at 13:00, you had until 13:05 to respond. Anything longer felt disrespectful. And once I noticed that you responded late without a genuine reason, I wouldn’t bother texting again.

Some people took days to reply — some didn’t reply at all — and it annoyed me so much. I’d think, “Why are you using your phone if you’re not going to respond to my message?” It genuinely made me angry. But now… I’m the same.

It takes me hours, days, sometimes even weeks to respond to certain messages. And sometimes, I don’t respond at all. The first thing I do on WhatsApp every morning is “mark all messages as read.” Then I reply to the few I can. My life has become busier. I’m up as early as 5:00 AM and sometimes don’t get back into bed until 10:00 PM. I no longer have the luxury of being on my phone like before. Even when I’m on it, I have multiple things to do in a short time.

Now I imagine the people who receive my late replies thinking I’m doing it out of pride. I used to think like that too — what goes around really does come around.

I’ve become the person I used to criticise without even realising it. But now that I think about it, they weren’t being proud. They just had more important things to do.


Life, right? Always dramatic.


Have you ever realised you’ve become the person you once judged?  See how life teaches us compassion in the most unexpected ways.





Comments

Vickybig said…
Life treats everybody differently, but do not let what anyone says steal your peace, like U do tell me.... Life is challenging
December 9, 2025 at 12:31 PM
Oloyede Kehinde said…
Life is truly challenging and it's so important to protect one's peace.
December 9, 2025 at 12:34 PM
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